The bible: "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Chapter 7: he's just not that into you if he doesn't want to marry you
I am actually quite proud of myself. I read this book over two years ago and it helped me get myself on track then and it still rings true today. Actually, my break-up was a lot easier this time around. I know the posts to my blog may make it seem different, but it is true. I didn't take to heavy partying, drinking, one night stands, and other self-destructive behaviors this time. I do think of him constantly, but I don't desperately call, email, or put myself in situations where I "might" run into him. Why, because of chapter 7 in this book.
The night we broke up he told me that while on vacation with his parents his dad got a little tipsy and asked if we were going to get married, he didn't tell me his answer that night, but... I have since guessed it since that was the beginning of the end. I know that his response was, "I don't think so." Not, "maybe" or "I don't know," but a realization for him that he just wasn't that into me. Now he tried to feed me what Greg calls, "The Age-Old 'I'm Just Not Ready' Excuse." I was proud of myself that night because I said, you will end up with someone, I am just really sad that it isn't going to be me.
Now I have to thank my former guy because he did what I couldn't and walked away, I would have waited and been one of those girls... but since he walked away, I was also able too. And though I am not happy, I am not entirely sad either, because if my love was a burden or wasn't what he was looking for, he doesn't deserve me and I will find someone who wants me. Someone who can't wait to talk to me everyday. Someone who will call just because he is thinking of me. Someone who will buy me flowers for no reason at all. Someone who will work as hard as I will to make things work.
Greg writes in his book:
"Dear Waiting at the Altar,
He's right. Why rush? It's only been five years. He's going to know you so much better after ten years he decides he's still not ready. I hate to tell you this, but here's why he feels rushed: He's still not sure you're the one. Yep my lovely, I know it's hard to hear, but better to hear it now than 10 years from now..."
Remember this... you are worth someone who CAN'T wait!
