What is the big deal about flashing? I don't get the big deal about boobs.

Why do girls get naked? Why flash people? I don't get it... Even when I am drunk at parties and body shots are involved, I can't imagine taking of my shirt to "flash" people. I would maybe do it if I was sober and there was a reason for doing it, getting paid, winning a bet, being able to make a conscious decision so no one can hold it over my head.

I might even do it more often if I had some stellar looking fake ones... but I ain't got nothing. You know, in the end, maybe I am just jealous. Jealous that I don't have anything to flash with.

I always wonder what guys think of girls who flash everyone randomly and for no reason. Do you respect them? What if she is your girlfriend and she flashes all your friends? Does that mean you have the "Cool" girlfriend? Does that mean you are stud because you have a girl who shows everyone what she's got? What if she is the mother of your children and flashes random people while floating down the river... is it really that cool? I don't get.

Ladies, I want to hear what you have to say. Why do you flash? When do you flash? How do you feel after you know you have done so?

Guys, what do you think of girls who flash, your friends, in public? What do you think of your guy friend's long-term girlfriend who does that? Do you respect her? Do you respect these girls/women? Does it make a difference if she is drunk or sober? Does it make no influence?

I know I feel cheap and slutty after something stupid like that. I hate it even more if it happens while I am drunk because then people hold it over my head.

I hope I get a lot of persepctive about this incident. Do my opinions make me a prude?

Another busy weekend: floating down a river takes 5 hours

Tubing on the Salt River is quite fun in AZ, particularly when it is 110 degrees outside. I went with a huge group. Going with a bunch of people is fun, but it gets out of hand. I think it is my fault because I am such a caretaker that it bugs me that no one is looking out for each other so only a couple of people end up running around making any sense.

I like a small group, like 4-10. Yeah you may not have the envy factor of people wishing they were part of your group, but you don't end up being suckered into giving away free beer, dealing with overly drunk people.

I am not lonely...

When people end a long-term relationship everyone assumes they are lonely and that is why they want their old relationship back. I disagree. I have been accused of being lonely.


I really am not lonely. I don't mind being at my house alone, and when I am single I am always 10 times busier and more social than when I have a relationship. If I was so lonely, I could find someone tomorrow to sleep with, watch a movie with, eat dinner with, etc.


It isn't that I am lonely, it is that I miss him.


I miss the conversations with him, I miss his smile, I miss his annoying habits and traits. I miss hearing about his day and telling him about mine. I miss his horrible movie choices and how neither one of us would pick a place to eat.


I will admit it was really hard work and exhausting. Working around his schedule... all the driving... and it sucked that I only had a weekend with him when I took off work and he happened to have "flex time" he had to use. It still bothered me that he didn't give me a key, or he never offered a drawer for me to keep my stuff in, or gave me a toothbrush again (he did once). Yeah he doesn't ever buy me flowers... but 99% of guys don't buy flowers.

However, the conversations, cuddling, and pleasure of being with him was and is something I still wish I could have everyday.